There’s a lot of self-development advice out there that says, “you’ve just got to want it enough!”
That’s only partly true. Everybody wants something. And everybody wants something badly. They just aren’t being honest with themselves about the entirety of what they actually want.
If you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. If you want the six pack, you have to want the sweat, the soreness, the early mornings, and the hunger pangs. If you want the yacht, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business moves, and the possibility of pissing off a person or ten.
If you find yourself wanting something month after month, year after year, yet nothing happens and you never come any closer to it, then maybe what you actually want is a fantasy, an idealization, an image and a false promise. Maybe you don’t actually want it at all.
So i ask you, “How are you willing to suffer?”
Because you have to choose something. You can’t have a pain-free life. It can’t all be roses and unicorns.
Choose how you are willing to suffer.
Because that’s the hard question that matters. Pleasure is an easy question. And pretty much all of us have the same answer.
The more interesting question is the pain. What is the pain that you want to sustain?
Because that answer will actually get you somewhere. It’s the question that can change your life. It’s what makes me me and you you. It’s what defines us and separates us and ultimately brings us together.
So what’s it going to be?
The author of this article is available to provide coaching or speak at group settings. Lynn Hinderaker is a dynamic talk show host and innovation strategist.
Contact speaker and coach, Lynn Hinderaker, at 402-208-5519